From a friend who knows: “A word on abusive relationships:

The Workplace Mental Health Institute name 15 signs that indicate that you may be in an abusive relationship.

It is abusive behaviour when someone:

1. Stops you seeing friends and family

2. Won’t let you go out without permission

3. Tells you what to wear

4. Monitors your phone or emails

5. Controls the finances, or won’t let you work

6. Controls what you read, watch and say

7. Monitors everything you do

8. Punishes you for breaking the rules, but the rules keep changing

9. Tells you it’s for their own good, and that they know better

10. Doesn’t allow you to question it

11. Tells you you’re crazy, and no-one agrees with you

12. Calls you names of shame you for being stupid and selfish

13. Gaslights you, challenges your memories of events, makes you doubt yourself

14. Dismisses your opinions

15. Plays the victim, if things go wrong, it’s all your fault.

If you knew someone who was experiencing this in a relationship, you would want them to get out, right? You would want them to strengthen their boundaries and stand up for themselves, and to no longer accept this manipulative and cruel behaviour. You would hope for the person to take some distance to look at the situation they are finding themselves in, you would want them to start realizing that the way they are being treated is cruel and inhumane. You would want them to gain confidence and no longer bow down to their bully. You would want them to trust their inner guidance, and trust what they know is good for them.

I believe we have ended up en masse as victims of a relentless bully. Some of us see it, others believe that as long as they keep doing what their abuser says, it will all get better one day. Some of us believe it is our fault, and fall for the shaming and guild tripping. It is time we all start to see that we are being abused.

1. Stops you seeing friends and family

This relentless unending lockdown is stopping many of us from seeing our friends and loved ones

2. Won’t let you go out without permission

Same thing, we are told to stay indoors, without any reason or evidence that this is in any way beneficial.

3. Tells you what to wear

Wear a mask!

4. Monitors your phone or emails

Track and trace

5. Controls the finances, or won’t let you work

Furlough, closing small businesses, shops, bars and restaurants

6. Controls what you read, watch and say

Censorship of the voices that try to give a different perspective

7. Monitors everything you do

Track and trace, mass surveillance

8. Punishes you for breaking the rules, but the rules keep changing

Arrests and fines for meeting friends, attending protests, having people over. Tier 1, 2, 3, suddenly 4, now 5, lockdown.

9. Tells you it’s for your own good, and that they know better

Even if 45.000 scientists declare that lockdown is not the right way to go, SAGE disagrees and knows better.

There’s nothing normal about the “new normal”

There’s nothing social about “social distancing”

We are responsible for our own health and well being. It isn’t right to be forced to make unhealthy personal choices under the guise of “saving others”. That’s emotional blackmail.

10. Doesn’t allow you to question it

Censorship, cancel culture, dismissing the voices of thousands of doctors and scientists worklwide

11. Tells you you’re crazy, and no-one agrees with you

Ridiculing everyone who questions the main narrative, labelling them as dangerous far right conspiracy theorists

12. Calls you names or shames you for being stupid and selfish

Calling people who question the narrative and stand up for their human rights “covidiots”, “superspreaders”, “murderers”.

Shaming people for putting other people’s “lives at risk” with normal human behaviour.

13. Gaslights you, challenges your memories of events, makes you doubt yourself

Masks don’t work…….wear a mask to protect others!

Herd immunity…….no herd immunity, only vaccines will save us!

Vaccines will save us……the vaccines will not stop the spread of covid! We have to continue with the “new normal” until we are all go crazy and lose the will to live!

The virus lives on surfaces…oh no it doesn’t

500.000 people will die…oh no, miscalculation

14. Dismisses your opinions

Do we know lockdowns work, are the risks not outweighing the benefits?…Shut up, have you lost anyone to covid, have you seen the hospitals, do you want to kill your granny?

Is the vaccine safe? Has it been tested on animals? Has this new kind of vaccine been used before? Will taking it mean we can go back to normal? Is it safe for pregnant women? Will it stop the spread of Covid? How does it actually work?……Shut up shut up, shut up, the vaccine is safe and effective and THAT IS IT!

15. Plays the victim, if things go wrong, it’s all your fault.

Well, we would lift the lockdown if everyone stuck to the rules but because you don’t we do not see any other choice than to prolong this lockdown. If you could all just stop breathing we would all be ok, but you just don’t listen to me, do you…..

Nobody gets out of an abusive relationship because the abuser decides to stop abusing. The only way out is by stepping out of your fear-based thinking, connecting to your rational inner knowing that you can only access when you are calm and centered, and say NO!

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