New charity for male sex abuse victims launches in Mansfield

Nicci Robinson, (right) with Roger Garrett, charity steward, from the Provincial Grand Lodge of Nottinghamshire (second right) and members, workers and volunteers at Mending UK.
Danielle Hayden

Male victims of sexual abuse and domestic violence no longer have to suffer in silence – thanks to a new charity based in the region.

MENding UK opened last week at an event at its office on Byron Street, Mansfield.

The charity was launched due to the lack of services for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence – both recent and historic.

This comes after it was discovered that around 1 in 7 men have sustained some form of sexual abuse before the age of 16.

MENding UK will operate under the umbrella of its sister charity S.H.E. UK, which offers a similar service for women.

It is only the second charity of this type in the whole county.

Nicci Robinson, chief executive of both charities, said: “It has been a long held ambition of the trustees of the charity to develop a similar service for male survivors.

“There’s very little for female survivors but even less for male survivors.
“But it’s harder for men to come out and declare themselves as victims because of social pressures.

“There is a feeling of failure and shame.”

Services will be provided by health professionals and trained specialists.

Users can contact the charity directly or may also be referred through professionals such as doctors, social workers or the police force.

MENding can provide therapy, peer support groups, creative therapies and adult learning groups to help victims overcome what has happened to them.

Nicci added: “This type of abuse really does destroy lives.

“It’s very difficult, emotional work and my staff have to be particularly emotionally resilient to go with the day-to-day running of these services.

“But when a member comes in and is in a really bad place and months later we have helped them to improve, that is really powerful stuff.”

The charity have also got a new angle on connecting with their users – through the use of Facebook.

They launched this digital service with S.H.E UK in 2013 and Nicci says it has helped them save lives.

She said: “It’s a good point of contact for some people who might find talking face-to-face or on the phone difficult.

“Over a keyboard is sometimes easier.”

The biggest funders of the new charity are Nottinghamshire Freemasons, with a grant of £1800, and the Thomas Farr charity have also contributed

For more information on the new charity or to get in touch with them, visit or call them on 01623 622916.


11 Responses to “New charity for male sex abuse victims launches in Mansfield”

  1. ian says:

    Very difficult subject this. I was hit on a couple of times as a kid because I was the quiet type. I managed to avoid it both times, but if you’ve been really emotionally hurt, would you want to talk about it. I’m not talking revenge through anger. I’m talking hurt, really hurt emotionally. So much hurt that you struggle to cope. Don’t think so.

  2. Aldous says:

    Fool me once (Childline) shame on you; fool me twice (MENding UK) shame on me.

    Is there more to Crimestoppers than meets the eye?

    The Crimestoppers organisation, seems, at first glance, to have very noble intentions.

    It offers the opportunity to report crimes anonymously via a freephone telephone number and apparently helps the police with their work.

    Could it be though, that as with so many other things in filthy Britain, Crimestoppers is not really as it appears to be?

    Could it be that Crimestoppers is actually being used as a way of “gatekeeping” to filter out callers who may be reporting VIP criminality in the UK.

    Take the example of a whistleblower or victim who wants to report child abuse but is too scared to contact the police directly.

    Isn’t it probable they might call Crimestoppers, naively believing them to be impartial, and tell them all about the abuse they’ve suffered or witnessed?

    They may even name important names and give detailed information in the hope that the perpetrators will be investigated and punished.

    But as the phone goes down, who exactly gains access to all of that information?

  3. Aldous says:

    I’m very suspicious:

    “The biggest funders of the new charity are Nottinghamshire Freemasons…”

    Many fake charities such as Age Concern [now deceptively called Age UK after merging with overseas Help the Aged] have links to Common Purpose.

  4. cynthia wright says:

    The whole point of the jewish 20th century is to make buggering boys under aged 9 yea and girls younger than that under their Talmu acceptable to our West.
    The DT reports that about 40% of chiildren say they are not heterosexual.

    See how was it is for the Talmud owned media to make sluts of innocent children, and the Pew Institutdte owned by Talmudists printed that DT report…all the better to make children slaves of Talmudists.

  5. cynthia wright says:

    So anyone who uses the word Talmudist is banned from your site.
    Freakery in the extreme.

    The Talmud allows sex with boys under aged 9, and girls younger than that, and that is why the West has been ruined by such freaks; Mi6, Rothschild led.

  6. Nike says:

    Best to Keep away.

  7. Lynn says:

    Another gatekeeping exercise. They are getting to them 1st. Who would trust the word charity anymore. Just a front.

  8. ferryt says:

    ‘from the Provincial Grand Lodge of Nottinghamshire’.

    Oh dear.

  9. Charly says:

    Surely this is a very positive development. Society often seems to forget that men can be victims of rape and domestic violence too. This is probably because notions of male vulnerability threaten the sexist patriarchy.

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